There is nothing that dares to come out on top when it comes to office dramas. Besides salary and bonus, for insiders it is also a delicate and difficult issue that colleagues want their boss to eat.
Huong (27 years old, currently employed as a senior employee at a multinational corporation in Ho Chi Minh City) once invited her boss at her old company to eat at a very fancy restaurant in District 1. Because she had worked with many people. As a great boss, she understands the importance of building relationships with people. But that experience of longing for her boss made her remember her life and never forget it.
Like Huong, Tin (25 years old, selling in a furniture store) also has a bad memory of his boss, although the amount he spent on this “investment” is not small, reaching 4-5 million.
Why do you need a boss for a meal?
As initially shared, Huong is quite interested in building careers and relationships. It’s not mandatory to ask for a boss, but that’s what she feels she should do: “I have been working for more than 5 years, so I know how to observe and pay attention to my surroundings better. I think there will be a first, and then a later one, I just need to know. Treating the boss well will make them pay more attention to themselves, and if they understand the boss, the work will be easy and convenient to work with in the future † †
Tin is not as optimistic as Huong, but believes his desire for his boss is completely forced, with the bosses often suggesting that every time he receives a paycheck he should “wait for a light party”. Being quite shy, the man respects him and does not dare to refuse, afraid to bring fame and later influence his work.
As for Ngoc, although she has never invited anyone to dinner, she often brings gifts from her hometown to her boss every time she comes home. Small gifts were carefully wrapped and given to everyone from the boss sister to the coworker next to her. Unable to shop or ask her boss for food and drink, but she knows she has to live “with above and below”, with valuable colleagues, whatever she does it’s convenient.
Experiences when inviting the boss to a meal
Mentioning the experience of craving the boss still makes Huong get goosebumps every time she repeats it, because she made a terrible mistake that Huong didn’t dare repeat. Huong recalled: “That day I invited my old boss over for dinner, but the problem was that there were only 2 people to eat, so there was a problem. My colleague from the same company caught me at the same time, so rumors spread that I’m ‘meaning’ to the boss, discuss with the boss for easy promotion” † Because of false rumors, she was criticized by many colleagues and her relationship with her boss was also more uncomfortable. “I should have invited a few more colleagues from the same company, then there would be no such thing † Already after a few months she had to change jobs because she was too tired of the negative rumors about her, just from a forgettable meal.
And Tin said his experience with his boss didn’t have the positive results expected because most of the “light parties” he often suggested were passively suggested by his boss. “It’s a light party, but the boss often invite me to drink at some hotpot beer shops, but it’s not only increased by one, but also increased by 2, increased by 3, sometimes went to karaoke, sometimes after the food, went to the bar to drink again.” Tin complained.
He also feels that he is too “soft”, which makes it easy for bosses to “bully” because although he is annoyed and unhappy when he has to invite his boss to dinner, he has never dared to say no because he is afraid and even angry. respect. Tin shared: “Every time I crave lightly I lose 2-3 million, the times the boss is ‘more’ I spend up to 5 million to pay off 3-4 raises, but the boss goes out to drink and takes almost half of the money. my monthly salary” †
Ngoc thinks she has never encountered a strange situation herself because she has never… longed for a boss. “I think whoever has a higher salary should crave that too? Plus, the boss is older than his age and career, so it’s good to want younger employees too.” † – Ngoc shared.
However, she also emphasized that she herself has witnessed many strange situations from colleagues when inviting their boss to dinner. “Having a private meal with your boss is also a rather delicate story in the office, because you are an eyesore for many people and make other colleagues even more curious. And one person has ten ideas, a trivial matter. out loud, sometimes inviting the boss to a meal that causes misunderstandings later” – she noted.
What does the boss say?
In order to have a two-sided and objective view on this matter, we reached out to Mr. Hung Nguyen – co-founder and CEO of HW Agency – a company specializing in brand communication in the music, entertainment and nightlife sectors.
Regarding the employee’s invitation to eat, Mr. hung: “When employees invite them to eat, they see that the boss is friendly, so after work they are considered brothers and friends, happy and close. At school. In this case I will actively pay 30 – 50% of the bill, the rest for you to share. In addition, I also think that everyone wants to contribute money, more or less so that the next time they go out together, they can feel comfortable † †
Personally, this boss thinks it’s inadvisable to talk about work when dining with employees. But this is also a very important activity: “At that time, me and the staff were honest, just friends. After we became friends, we felt happy, comfortable and loved, then we actively supported and helped each other. This is also the reason why I often let new employees and old employees hang out together, find it appropriate to put together a team” †
However, Mr Hung Nguyen stressed that this is only his own perspective and experience and does not represent the bosses in general. “Partly I work in the media industry, both the boss and staff are quite comfortable and open, and partly it is difficult for bosses in large companies or companies with many employees to apply like me.” – Anh Hung shared.
Invite the boss or not, that’s up to you!
The desire for the boss is pretty hard to say, but it’s not impossible.
If your goal is to please your boss or build a good working relationship, show it in other ways. For example: going to work on time, paying attention to dressing for the right conditions, being polite and communicating actively in the company, you also need to listen and be open to ideas, do your tasks well. yourself without waiting for your boss to remind you. And most importantly, always know how to keep the line between yourself and the boss, remember, don’t try to create drama or become the focus of office drama, extremely uncomfortable.
If you fall into the trap of being forced to ask for a boss, be hospitable at first. However, next time you should also hit softly or actively say no if you don’t want to. Because the decision is yours.
Finally, remember that it’s okay to want your boss. Don’t forget your job because of a “wait”, know how to create enough boundaries so that going to work and meeting colleagues is a pleasure, not a sneak peek and speculation.
Source: CafeBiz
