I dare not tell my wife and my in-laws about my father’s debts but I tried to help him secretly.
I am 35 years old, married with two children. We all live happily together.
My wife comes from a wealthy family, so she never had to ask me anything. My in-laws even let the house we live in be registered in my and my wife’s name, because they don’t expect anything from me except to take good care of their daughter. So I work hard and give my wife part of my income every month to cover our living expenses.
My parents recently lost money with their real estate investments and borrowed money from others. They only told me when the interest on the loan was already beyond their financial capacity.
But I dare not tell my wife, because my in-laws hate going into debt and constantly remind us not to borrow from others.
So I told my wife that my mother had fallen ill, and that I should reduce the amount of money I give her each month to send more to my mother. She has accepted.
However, my father is not satisfied. He pressured me several times which made me angry and made me yell at my wife. I even threw things in front of her and our children a few times, which caused my wife to insist on divorcing me. Despite this, I tried to reconcile with her.
My in-laws are on my wife’s side. They encouraged my wife to divorce and said that I would not have custody, since the house was given to my wife instead of the two of us.
So I’m about to lose everything, my wife, my children and the house I live in, not to mention that I have to pay my father’s debts.
What should I do to both fulfill my responsibilities with my father and find my family happy?
