I am 36 years old and currently unemployed. I come from a normal family and have savings of 400 million VND (about $17,000).
I always thought of my mother as a self-centered and cruel person, who always thinks of herself and for her own benefit. She and my paternal grandmother argued a lot, and she didn’t even cry when my grandmother died.
She also argues with my father, my older sister, my sister-in-law, me and almost all of our neighbors and her friend.
She nitpicks and talks badly about my father’s brothers and sisters, especially those who are richer than her or those who have children who are more successful than me and my brothers and sisters. She swears on whoever drives her crazy.
We live with my maternal grandmother since my mother is an only child. My mother, as always, argues a lot with my grandmother. She even rejected her relationship with my grandmother, making my grandmother so sad that she moved on. But my mother still went to my grandmother to yell at her.
My grandmother’s health has become terribly bad and she has many illnesses. My husband and I feel bad for her, so we brought her home to take care of her and help her with the treatments.
My mother was diagnosed with cancer some time ago. She called us and asked us to give her some money so she could have cancer treatment. My older sister and younger brother are not well off, so they cannot give her money.
Meanwhile, I also quit my job recently because my workload was too heavy and my husband has to carry all five of us, including my grandmother, our children, me and himself. I have some savings, but if I give them to her, my family will suffer financially.
But I will feel bad if I don’t help my mother. What should I do?
