I had a financially stable life in Vietnam as my monthly income was between 30 and 45 million VND ($1,233 to $1,850). With this income, I could buy anything I wanted and took my parents on occasional recreational trips.
I immigrated to my husband’s country on a spousal immigrant visa, so I am waiting for my residence permit and therefore have to stay at home instead of working until then.
My husband is rich, but I don’t like how I have to rely on him for everything, from waiting for him to drive me in his car every time I want to go somewhere, to relying on him for obtain sponsorship for my immigration status. I want to get my independent life back.
My husband has a child with a former girlfriend, but they never married. His child has just moved and is not financially dependent on him.
However, my husband and I signed an agreement that if something bad happened to my husband, his assets would go to his child and not me.
I didn’t marry my husband for money or for a chance to settle in his country, so I signed it without question.
However, now that I think about it, I have changed my mind, because even if I stay with my husband for a decade or a lifetime, I won’t get anything from him. It is unfair.
I talked to my husband about it. He and his child promised me that his child would take care of me if something bad happened to him, and I trust them. However, the feeling of being dependent on others makes me insecure.
I also have other problems with my husband. Since he is a rich and prominent personality here, he will not allow me to work as an employee in a restaurant or in a manicure shop, which are easy professions to apply and can bring in a lot of money. And my husband isn’t that generous with his pocket money either.
I don’t know if I’m thinking too much or if there are actually problems. But on the one hand, I don’t feel safe in my current life.
On the other hand, I do not want to return to Vietnam because living here allows me to have a better life. I think I also have a good relationship with my husband and his child.
What should I do?
